Recently I wrote an instagram share that was well received. While it didn’t go viral (lol) I did get the most comments and DM’s I’ve ever received. Why? It was the topic of loving yourself at all sizes and something I find that many shy away from. Let’s title it my no shame size 12 mom body love post. While I’m working toward a healthier lifestyle (which has already involved some weight loss; not the goal but enjoyed all the same because it feels good to feel good) I truly love all of me at any size and that’s what it’s all about! Here’s what I said on Instagram that many appreciated:
I’m not the girl that says “what is she wearing” or “oh my gosh, look at her”. I’m the girl that says “she’s so cute”. I’m not the girl that says “don’t take my picture” or “ew, I look awful”. I’m the girl that doesn’t want to regret not being in photos with my kids and fun moments.
It might sound odd to some and empowering to others, but I have no shame with my size or my Target mom jeans attire. It took me awhile to love all of me. I’ve always been confident, but I wouldn’t say confident in my size… confident more so in my skill set. I wear a bathing suit at size 12 more often than I did at size 6. Why? Why do we live in a world where at a size 6 we feel the need to not get in a bathing suit or cover yourself up? I totally blame the media on this one. We are all built differently and that’s one of the most wonderful things about each one of us. There’s no one size fits all in life, y’all.
So what turned my body image confidence around?
From high school to today I’ve been a size 6, size 14, size 9, size 12, size 6, and my current size 12. This isn’t a new size for me but this is my first time loving me and not a jean size so that makes ALL the difference. There are a few factors that have brought me to this body confidence level but I would honestly have to give 70% of the credit to my children.
I made 2 beautiful baby boys and that is a blessing! Not everyone gets the opportunity to have children and every day I thank God for my healthy boys. They love all of me. At age 3 and age 1 they have no idea what size I am or any concept of what that would mean. That is powerful. We set an example for our children and I want to show them confidence in every aspect of life. Feeling the unconditional love a child gives you is the most overwhelmingly powerful feeling I’ve ever felt. When my children love me as much as they do (they’re super lovey dovey touchy boys) why would I shy from the camera? Why would I not go in the pool with them on a hot summer day? Why would I show them tears of body insecurity when they put their arms around my belly to hug me daily? Why would I not be in a photo that will bring back a flurry of memories in the years to come?
I know not everyone feels this way and I do respect feelings that might not mimic mine. There is no judgement here, this is a place to remind you that you’re wonderful in every way.
I’m here to remind you that you are so loved, by your family and/or children so bring out the confidence you ALL deserve to see.
The unreal perks of body confidence at every size:
- You love having your photo taken. Girl, if I could schedule and budget a weekly photo session with my favorite local photographers, I would! It is such a wonderful feeling posing for the camera in public. This is not for everyone, I know. I think it’s fun to get dressed up (I mean getting out of yoga clothes) and take over a pretty street with a photographer friend. The confidence it gives me to pose anywhere is fun. Plus, I get the giggles when I do photos.
- You’re in all the photos. You are making memories and you’ll have them to cherish. You won’t say “I regret not being in the photo”.
- Shopping it isn’t stressful. Once you hit the “this is my size and that’s fine” point you won’t mind looking for that size in the store. I recall that dreaded feeling of having to go up a size in the store and now my focus is on- does it look good and make me feel good instead of the clothing size number.
- You’re more positive. No one loves a Debby Downer, but our body image can totally put us in a funk. It’s been a long time since I was negative about myself or pulled others down in that regards.
- You set better life goals. Loving myself at my current size has motivated me more to live a healthier life than ever. I loathed dieting at a size 6 or size 14, at size “I feel good about me” I feel so empowered to make healthier choices. This will lead to some weight loss and has already but that isn’t the goal here. The goal is to allow the confidence to take over and give a positive mindset to all areas of life.
I’ve allowed this body confidence to take over. When you feel good you’re happy and when you’re happy life is great!
Disclosure: The only thing I’m struggling with is limiting sugar and gluten. ha! I’ve decided to limit those things due to health issues, but that’s for another post.
You are so freaking beautiful, friend. You are size awesome and should practice self love daily.
All images by Laramie Photography